1-1-1: being kind is the new rebellion
read about the importance of an angry woman, explore your values, and some updates from me!
june, 2025
edition 82.
i went to scotland on a group trip (where I knew no one) this past weekend and it was such a magical time. if we put aside the amount of social battery it took to be around 60 strangers for 4 straight days (with two boat-bus-train transport days bookending the trip), I would do the trip over and over and over again.
there’s something grounding about being thrown into a situation and having to make the best of it because there is no other option - and coming out the other side realising you only have 1 hour of screen time.
sometimes I am so hyperfixated on leaving the UK to “travel” that I forget about what the country has to offer. it may not be the 12,000ft peak I summited while in college, but parts of this country definitely make my inner oats and honey granola girl :D smile.
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one journal prompt
are there any areas of your life where you want to make changes to align more closely with your core values?
one piece of advice
“how do you act nicely to people despite all the bad things they did to you?”
this is such an interesting question and I want to respond to it in twofold:
ONE:
the world hates to see an angry woman (person, yes, but woman more. sorry if you don’t identify as a woman - I am also trying to puzzle the answer through my own experience). we are taught to be soft and kind and nice to people who are cruel to us. anger will not give us a seat at the table - but maybe it should.
you are allowed to be angry at people for how they (mis)treat you, and you should not let anyone convince you otherwise. you do not have to bend over backwards for someone who is adamant about taking advantage of your kindness. you don’t have to be nice to the people who deliberately hurt you.
we need to teach girls how to be angry and how to mean it. it took me two years to feel anger towards people who had hurt me, an anger that my friends and family felt for me way before I had the capacity to feel it for myself. feeling anger was an extreme breakthrough for me: it taught me that I experienced something unjust and I was allowed to be upset by it. don’t bottle up your anger because you “should” - you are allowed to feel hurt by other peoples’ actions.
BUT, TWO:
do not let your bullies harden you. do not let the bad in someone else make you the worst version of yourself. it is an act of defiance to be soft in a world which can be so unkind sometimes.
I remind myself time and time again that my emotions are my strength. my ability to feel so deeply is my contribution to the world. because of this, I refuse to let even the meanest and most calculated of actions make me hard.
I remind myself that everyone deserves kindness. oftentimes, the way people treat you is a reflection of how they treat themselves - and imagine how horribly they are treating themselves. we are our own worst bullies, and we know exactly where to push to hurt. while you don’t have to bend over backwards to be palatable, every single person deserves kindness. acknowledgement. firm boundaries. inclusion. that is my form of rebellion.
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