1-1-1: dealing with change
read about how I'm working through big feelings about my big move and some personal updates from London!
july, 2023
edition 25.
I’m writing this edition from london, my future home <3 I can’t believe I get to move to this beautiful city in september (fingers crossed) and live here for 12 months!
whew, apartment hunting is more exhausting than I could have imagined. I spend my days walking 15,000+ steps to look at shoeboxes with a highhhh price tag — I know the stressful period will turn into excitement once I sign something but, for right now, it’s like being in a state of hyper-stress! I’m so fortunate to be here and devote a whole week to apartment hunting and even be able to be picky! but I also know that my feelings and stresses are valid as well.
because I’m thinking about moving and starting a new chapter in my life, I thought I would dedicate this newsletter to just that. it’s time for some biiig changes babyyy :’)
you can expect one email from me every week containing:
one quote that has been inspiring me
one journal prompt
one piece of advice*
* = if you want to submit a question for my upcoming emails, you can find the form here.
podcast
on hiatus until september — listen to past episodes here <3
one quote
“‘tomorrow will be better.’
‘but what if it’s not?’
‘then you say it again tomorrow. because it might be. you never know, right? at some point, tomorrow will be better.’”
—unknown
one journal prompt
identify 3 emotions you’ve been feeling recently about a change in your life. how have they shown up in your behaviours or conversations?
one piece of advice
“i’m moving away from home to a whole new country 5+ hour flight away from my parents and my boyfriend as well for university. i don’t know how to feel about any of it, do you have any advice on how to be okay with feeling lonely because it’s bound to happen and how to settle? thank you for all you do <3”
sooo topical for me, especially given what I’m doing right now (apartment hunting for the fall) and what is about to occur (moving a 9.5 hour flight away from my current home). I’ve been thinking a lot about this topic and did some work with my therapist in the spring, so you’re in luck! this is what I’m going to lean on:
lean into the feelings. if you’re feeling lonely, let yourself feel it. by actually stopping to feel your emotions without labeling them as ‘right’ or ‘wrong,’ you’re validating your emotions (a common phrase people use but I didn’t really understand what it meant until recently). then move towards self care steps:
eat comfort food or take time to make a homemade meal (although doordashing is often easier, especially when you’re not feeling mentally 100%)
schedule time to speak with your support system — your family, your boyfriend, and your friends — and make it a weekly occurance
busy yourself with experiences in the new location: join clubs, make friends, check out touristy/cute places, and generally keep yourself busy (and tired!)
reframe some of the stress into excitement. after all, they (mostly) feel the same!
if it’s an option, plan a visit (either they visit you or you visit them) with a friend, family, or your significant other so you have something to look forward to
establish a routine that works for you, especially one that prioritizes your own self care
reading updates
currently reading: the lost hero by rick riordan
finished this week:
beach read by emily henry
if you want to keep up with my reading throughout the week, this is my goodreads :)
enjoyed this edition?
until we meet again,
katie