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1-1-1: dealing with 'not feeling good enough'
read about finding courage, feelings of failure, and an exclusive piece of content for newsletter subscribers!
april, 2023
edition 13.
hiiii this one is a bit more personal :’) but i’m still VERY excited to share this with you all.
i’m thinking about creating something *exclusive* for the subscribers of this newsletter, so let me know what sort of digital ebook you’d like to see! perhaps some journal prompts? digital affirmation cards? let me know in the comments!
you can expect one email from me every week containing:
one quote that has been inspiring me
one journal prompt
one piece of advice*
* = if you want to submit a question for my upcoming emails, you can find the form here.
announcements
a new pod episode is out, this one is another collab with soph! we do a q&a about our friendship, things we’ve learned, and have a more casual chat — listen here <3
one quote
“I hope you find the courage to change your life. in the small ways, in the big ways, in every way that matters. I hope you do not end this story with a heart full of regrets.
I hope you do not spend your years just waiting for your life to begin. I hope you realise that this is not the practice run, this is not the preview. this is it.
there is nothing to do but leap.
there is nothing to do but allow yourself to exist as boldly and honestly as you can.
you will think you have forever, but you do not. it all happens, and it happens quickly. you are not waiting on another person, or the right timing, or for everything to fall into place. you are waiting to feel ready enough to exist within the questions, to not need every answer, and to know that this life does not come to us to be perfectly understood, but to be fully experienced, in every direction we can possibly reach.”
—brianna wiest
one journal prompt
if you were to do one thing that scared you today, what would it be?
one piece of advice
“Do you ever feel not good enough? How do you manage?”
oh god yes. all the time. I deal with not feeling good enough day in and day out in everything that I do. sometimes the feeling of not being good enough paralyzes me into inaction. but in those moments, I try to remind myself that everything I want, everything I could ever imagine, is on the other side of the wall. I have to take a leap of courage and of faith to try and live the life I want before I do.
after all, it’s not embarrassing to be seen trying.
I think that being hard on myself will diminish any pain I might receive when I (apparently) inevitably get rejected from society for not being good enough.
what I’ve realised is the inner critic in me is a lot louder than the people around me.
more often than not, the people around me want to see me succeed. they cheer me on when I stumble and make mistakes and figure it out. but people would rather see me try and succeed then let the fear hold me back from even entering the race in the first place.
for me, I struggle with not being good enough for myself. I need to remind myself that ‘good’ is the goal, ‘great’ is a bonus, and ‘perfect’ doesn’t exist.
sometimes when my inner critic is loud, I’ll (metaphorically) plug my ears and dive head first. feel the fear and do it anyways. I’d rather try and fail at a million things then look back in ten years time and realise that my fear got the best of me.
reading updates
currently reading: a court of silver flames by sarah j. maas
just finished: a court of wings and ruin & a court of frost and starlight by sarah j. maas
if you want to keep up with my reading throughout the week, this is my goodreads :)
until we meet again,
katie