1-1-1: happy (self) love day
read about how to gain confidence and dive deep into reminders and journal prompts for self love.
happy valentine’s day <3
I’ve actually only celebrated one valentine’s day with a significant other — I have been happily single for the past 21 valentine’s days. however, this valentine’s day feels different.
this valentine’s day is the 9th month I’ve been intentionally single and intentionally choosing myself over anyone else. (and no, self love isn’t selfish!)
while I’m happy with my decision, I know that there are so many people out there single today and feeling down about it. if that’s you, please listen to me: your worth is not determined by someone else’s ability to see it.
I hope you surround yourself with people who will love you until you find that love in yourself.
happy self love day.
you can expect one email from me every week containing:
one quote that has been inspiring me
one journal prompt
one piece of advice*
* = if you want to submit a question for my upcoming emails, you can find the form here.
I’ve been loving the podcast format and I’m going to try to upload a weekly podcast episode. while I may have to pause making ‘how to’ posts as I figure out this new balance, I am feeling so motivated to podcast lately!
a new pod episode is out, this one talks about the “that girl” trend with takeaways from my personal thesis research — listen to it on apple and spotify <3
“people love you.
people want to be around you. people see your light and are inspired by it. when you leave the room, they talk about how lovely you are. strangers notice your beauty; they feel attracted to your aura. people want to hear your ideas; they want to explore your mind. people want to be your friend. they want to be close to you. they want you in their life.
even if no one has told you lately, trust me, people love you.”
—déjà rae, from come home to yourself
one journal prompt
how did your darkest moment shape you into who you are today?
one piece of advice
“how you become confident when the boy you like doesn’t like you back?”
I’ve had a lot of unrequited crushes back in my day, so I’m going to let you in on a little secret that took me 20+ years to learn: if someone doesn’t like you back, that has nothing to do with you.
I know! read it again.
if you don’t believe me, ask yourself this: how do you decide who you have a crush on? your answer is most likely along the lines of ‘I like their personality’ or ‘they make me laugh’ — you don’t choose to not have a crush on someone for a specific reason, you’re just more attracted to certain people. you didn’t respond with 'I have a crush on x because I actually just don’t like y’ because that’s weird!
the people we are romantically attracted to has nothing to do with who you don’t like.
the second piece about confidence… let’s just say that’s a journey and not a destination.
I’ve written (and collaborated on!) some posts about this topic already, so let me direct you to:
how to: accept yourself *unconditionally (collab with lostintheivy)
but the big takeaway is this: once you are so secure in your identity, what other people do (or don’t do) won’t phase you anymore. confidence ←→ self love, they’re venn diagrams that are almost perfect circles.
plus, let me reiterate this idea again: your worth is not determined by someone else’s ability to see it.
until we meet again,