1-1-1: how YOU affect the people around you
read about how your actions can affect your community, the importance of personal mindset, and a lot of resources for growing into a happier and healthier human.
november, 2023
edition 43.
hello from my lecture (oops sorry mom) because I have an awful 5 hours of class this fine tuesday (2 extra hours of class this week, please send me all of the good vibes through the screen).
london has been giving *christmas* this month and I have been absolutely loving it. from ice skating by the river to mulled wine to christmas markets, my inner child (and current adult’s love for christmas) is screamingggg. trying to balance everything has been a struggle but it makes me happy sometimes that content/the internet take a backseat as it reaffirms how full my social calendar — and my heart — is.
I have a lot to look forward to this week and I’m so excited to take you all along with me <3 everything will be up on my IG stories so make sure you’re following that (and are in my broadcast channel!) to stay up to date ;) @katie.eu
now lets just diiiive into this weeks edish!
you can expect one email from me every week containing:
one quote that has been inspiring me
one journal prompt
one piece of advice*
* = if you want to submit a question for my upcoming emails, you can find the form here.
podcast
new episode in the moving diaries series about thriving (socially, academically, and physically) — listen to all my past episodes here <3
one quote
“be open with your love and loud with your laughter. life is so much brighter when lived genuinely.”
—michael bliss
one journal prompt
what could I do more of if I said no to things that didn’t matter?
one piece of advice
“would love to see you talk about: how the way one speaks to themselves makes a huge difference, thank u and hope ur doing amazing!”
hi hi first of all, I hope you’re doing amazing as well <3 I always love reading the cute little messages you write at the end of your questions!
the way you speak to yourself + mindset shifts are something I’ve been focusing a lot on recently over on instagram — and I hope it has been resonating with you all as much as it has resonated with me — because it’s the one thing in my control that has truly changed my life.
self talk can go two ways so I’m going to split up my answer into two:
PART I: being kind to yourself
I struggle a lot with negative self talk.
(you’re not good enough. you’re not doing enough. other people are doing better than you at a younger age. etc etc)
when you realise that pushing yourself out of love and kindness will take you so much farther than pushing yourself out of fear and hate, why would you do the latter?
love is more powerful than hate. love invites community, gives life meaning, and uplifts the people around you. hate promotes loneliness, shame, and isolation.
if you’re struggling to be nice to yourself (but your fatal flaw is loyalty aka you are percy jackson), why don’t you try this: the way you speak to yourself matters. it matters because it teaches the people around you how you should be treated. it matters because your mood affects the mood of the people around you. it matters because you matter more than you know.
don’t believe me? watch this clip of the man enough podcast where justin baldoni talks about the impact jamey has had on him.
the way you carry yourself can inspire the people around you. if you can’t do it for yourself, do it for how it impacts others.
PART II: pushing yourself
once I realised that what I went through was not my fault but my healing is my responsibility, I took back my power. I used to spend my time walking around in a victim mindset and complaining that the world is unfair. the harsh truth I learned (and I only learned by being faced with this over and over and over again) is that my mindset was keeping me stuck.
I asked myself: what do I want more? to feel like a victim, or to live a different life?
you’re going to continue doing the same thing until it becomes too uncomfortable not to change. said differently, you’re not going to change until you have no other choice.
if you’re sick and tired of feeling the way you’re feeling and living the life you’re living, do something about it.
read more books, unfollow/follow people on social media, change the way you speak to the people around you, and generally change your environment to be more supportive about the changes you’re about to make in your life.
remember that you are the driver of your own life.
some things that have helped me immensely with mindset:
*no affiliate links, just sharing things I genuinely love*
solidarity on the bench podcast (podcast, the link goes to spotify)
the defining decade by meg jay, phd (book)
the power of now by eckhart tolle (book)
weee okay that is a lot of links and resources for ya but it’s a topic that is near and dear to my heart. love you love you love you and I hope you enjoyed this edishhhh!!!!
reading updates
currently reading: seven days in june by tia williams, babel by r.f. kuang, iron flame by rebecca yarros
finished this week:
(nothing again but I swear I am going to finish iron flame tonight AGH)
if you want to keep up with my reading throughout the week, this is my goodreads :)
enjoyed this edition?
until we meet again,
katie
Just started reading these newsletters and I love them. They're the perfect short and sweet motivators and it's fun to see how you're doing too! Keep it up!<3
omg so many links but i love it!! hey Katie, hope ur doing amazing!
this is just so downright helpful and relatable. i can picture my self and my mind shifting into these perspectives, it is not easy but i can see myself trying. i love this one: pushing one's self out of love and kindness not out of hate and fear, i usually try to be reminded to treat myself like someone i love so it really does resonate with me in a way. also, escaping the victim mindset, this one hit home, often times i would tell myself: i am already born in this world, breathing and functioning so i may as well live a life and not just rot in a victimized mindset, i may as well take action of the things i can control. LAST ONE 😅 , the "i am the driver of my own life." is just so powerful and amazing, hope everyone can implement it in their lives. i typed a lot, but yeah i guess that's everything i wanted to say. Thank you Katie. I truly love your newsletters.