1-1-1: upgrade your daily life
read about how to take charge of your daily life and how to turn jealousy into action.
november, 2022
happy november!
thank you for signing up and here’s the official welcome to my email list.
you can expect one email from me every two weeks containing:
one quote that has been inspiring me
one journal prompt
one piece of advice*
* = if you want to submit a question for my upcoming emails, you can find the form here.
one quote
“how we spend our days is how we spend our lives.”
one journal prompt
write a list of everything you would do in an ideal day.
now write a list of everything you do on a daily basis.
compare.
one piece of advice
“what do you do when you feel overwhelmingly jealous of other people’s lives?”
[this question comes from the question box I put on my stories a few days ago. all future questions will come from the google form, so be sure to submit something for future emails!]
as someone who lives half their life on the internet, jealousy is a feeling I am (unfortunately) very familiar with. like any feeling, jealousy is an signal. it’s an indicator that something about your life right now isn’t in line with how you imagine your life to be.
the best way I can answer this question is in two parts:
I. recognize the ways you can change your own life to mirror theirs
II. remind yourself of the ways they can fabricate their life to look better than it is
I.
this first newsletter is all about your daily life and how to make the most of it. It’s important to ask yourself:
what is it about someone else’s life that make me feel jealous? is it that they get to travel a lot? that they’re able to balance all aspects of their life? that they have a seemingly perfect relationship?
if you can figure out what aspects of their life you feel jealous about, you can begin to work towards ways to incorporate that into your own life.
there might be big things like being able to travel often that isn’t feasible for you right now, but that doesn’t mean the whole thing is bust. what are ways you can incorporate travel or short trips into your schedule? are there places you can explore nearby where you are?
II.
as a creator myself, I know how easy it is to manipulate online content to look incredible and aspirational. honestly, sometimes I look back at my old reels and wish my life looked as good as it did back then (which is hilarious because …it is literally my own content).
I have to remind myself that (e.g.) van life isn’t as lovely as people make it seem online. a lot of times, people are sleeping in cracker barrel parking lots and driving hours to get to an “instagram worthy” destination only to realise they have to pay a hefty fee to get in and it’s overrun by tourists.
it’s easy to see someone else’s life and wish for the good parts without considering the bad parts as well. do a reality check with yourself: how might this person present their life in the best way possible? — no one wants to showcase the ugly aspects and, try as we might, social media is still a highlight reel.
ultimately jealousy is a natural feeling. we all have a ‘grass is greener’ mindset. in the age of social media, we are exposed to a lot of grass (just trying to continue the metaphor!). don’t beat yourself up for feeling jealous — use that feeling to motivate you into changing your own life. also, you never know! someone might be jealous of your life!
until we meet again,
katie