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22 things I learned by 22
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there’s never a good time to put yourself first. there’s time, and what you do with it. start your healing journey young.
tell people you love them often. give gifts just because. hand out compliments like candy. the world could benefit from your positivity.
you are not your mental illness, so stop over-identifying with it
it’s okay to not have everything figured out yet. in fact, it’s actually better. to not have everything figured out means that you don’t know how happy you can be in the future, and that’s a beautiful thought.
being an academic weapon is really cool. caring about academia is really cool. your education is a privilege, don’t forget that.
give yourself to try and fail at new things.
you are absolutely entitled to life the life you want. recreate things that are on your pinterest board. romanticize your life, even if the people around you think it’s silly.
it’s better to be alone than to be surrounded by people you don’t like.
stop apologising for everything, and stop being the fall person for everything. take accountability for the things that are your fault and let everything else go. you don’t have to apologise for someone else’s mistakes.
communication above all else. don’t let things fester inside of you, especially if it relates to another person. let it out, however scary that may be, and be proud of yourself for finding the courage to speak your truth.
the wellness girls have something figured out: having a consistent workout routine, eating nourishing foods, reading self help books, having strong routines, and reducing your alcohol intake actually does make your life better.
figure out what and where makes you the happiest. for me, it’s anytime i’m in the mountains and fully immersed in nature, or hanging out with people who bring value to my life.
it’s only embarrassing if you aren’t famous yet. and then, once your famous, it may still be embarrassing. but doing something over and over will guarantee success; there’s no way you can continually do something and not get better at it.
be grateful for what you have. be grateful for the slow moments in life. that means everyone, and everything, is doing their job correctly. be grateful that you can breathe through your nose, that it’s not raining outside, that you have a cosy bed to get into at night, or that you have access to try new things. not everyone has those luxuries.
your hobbies are important, not only because they can put you in a state of flow, but because it’s a time where you are prioritizing yourself and your interests.
if you want to have more downtime, slow down.
don’t rush through life. the beautiful thing is that you can have everything you’ve ever wanted in this lifetime, but you can’t have it all at once. plus, even if you did, you may not appreciate it all.
remember what your past goals are. make it a habit to celebrate every time you achieve a new goal. you worked hard to be at where you are now, so learn to savour this feeling of gratitude.
call your parents. call your grandparents. even if you don’t have something to say, make time to talk to them. one day they won’t be here anymore and you’ll miss out on these small moments with them.
screenshot poetry or things that inspire you and put it in a folder. look back at it often.
in the same vein, make a folder called ‘you are loved’ or something similar and put moments, text messages, gifts, and anything else you want in that folder to remind you of the amazing people you have by your side.
take a deep breath. you’re doing better than you think you are.
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