1-1-1: what to do when friendships fade

read about how to navigate losing friends with grace (sentence starters + journal prompts included)

february, 2025

edition 65.

february is prompting a lot of reflection for me.

the coffee trend from last week allowed me to stop and think about just how much I’ve grown. writing this newsletter reminded me of all the friendships I’ve lost over the years in a big or dramatic way, and how drastically different I approach those situations now. it’s also less than a month until I turn 25 (scary!) and I become someone I would have defined as ‘so old’ when I was 17.

I used to fear growth and fear change. I used to cling onto my life, however uncomfortable, and wrap myself in the blanket of familiarity. it’s not that now I don’t — or that I find comfort in the unfamiliar and the new (because, really, who does?). it’s more that writing this newsletter showed me how comfortable I am with being uncomfortable. with being misunderstood by people. the growth of my early 20s has allowed me to become so steadfast in my beliefs and my values that I no longer care if people are committed to misunderstanding me. I know who I am and that is enough. and that is not a mindset I would have had just 5 years ago.

I raised this as a question in the subscriber only chat but I wanted to open it up to the broader substack community: I am finding a lot of comfort in writing and musing and I love this form of creation. I’ve been incorporating writing a little bit more into my instagram (in the form of voiceover reels) but those, however impactful, take so long to edit the visuals for. plus, I have so much more to say than would fit in a 40 second reel! so, with all of that being said, would anyone be interested in a casual, non-committal, and non-structured email newsletter (sent from the same email) with longer-form writing, a little bit like the beginnings of the 1-1-1 newsletter? or would receiving something two or more times a week from me be ‘too much?’

finally, this edition is paid. if you find my writing valuable and you want to support my work, please consider becoming a paid subscriber — a monthly subscription is $6, around a price of a coffee. you’ll get access to all of my previous editions, free and paid.

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• one quote that has been inspiring me

• one journal prompt

• one piece of advice*

* = if you want to submit a question for my upcoming emails, you can find the form here.

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podcast

there are tons of guest episodes on the podcast from 2024 that are worth checking out — listen to them here <3

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